One of the more perplexing aspects of the wedding invitation tends to be the response card. What does that “M” stand for? Do I have to put a stamp on them? What do I do if I am missing some by the deadline date? Worry not. So how to do sort of those confusing response cards and make planning your wedding seating chart a little bit easier? Follow these general guidelines for sending out response cards. (And that “M” stands for the start of the guest’s personal title. They will write in Miss, Ms., Mrs., or Mr. before their name when filling out the response card.)
Fill out your address and put a stamp on the front of the card. For some reason, your guests have a hard enough time getting that response card in the mail to you, but if they have to put their own stamp and write your address on it, forget about ever seeing a response card from them. It’s considered proper etiquette and just plain thoughtful to include a stamp on the response card envelope. That way all your guests have to do is write in their name and meal choice, if included, and pop that card in the mail. Dreading spending all that money on postage? Opt for a response postcard. You’ll save money on stamps and eliminate the need for an envelope all together…thrifty AND green.
Number your response cards. Adding one more thing to your pre-wedding to do list can seem daunting, but this is one tip you do not want to ignore. While most guests will be more than diligent when sending back their response cards, some guests will be more difficult. Expect to see everything in your mailbox from cards containing two yes responses, but only one meal selection to cards that come back with nothing other than a check by “will not attend” line.
You can save yourself a lot of hassle by numbering your response cards before you mail them out. Simply assign each guest a number, keeping the master list to reference for an absent-minded guest. If your guest list is in an excel file, this is really easy. Simply take the numbers from the left hand side and write them on the correct response card. This way, when card number 52 comes back blank, you will know that Aunt Sally is planning to attend…and she wants the chicken.
Include a “Response Requested By…” line on the card. Give your guests some gentle prompting to send that RSVP back by including a date to mail it back by. Some of your guests will be deadline oriented. And yes, it is perfectly okay to call guests a week or two after the deadline to see if they have sent their card back. You have seating charts to make and meals to order after all.
Are there any other tips you have for sending out response cards? If you have already mailed them, are you having trouble getting them back, or are your wedding guests following the rules?